Y’all, can I be real with you?
Do you have those moments when you’re on a walk or cleaning or cooking, or something without really thinking & God shows you a lie you’ve been believing for so long, and you realise how ridiculous it is?
This morning I was out for a run/walk and just letting my thoughts run wherever (ha, pun not intended). And God turns on a light bulb and “wait a second, I’ve had this ideal in my head for years & it’s been seeping in without me knowing it. You sneaky little…”
Girls, if you were like me, back in preteen & teen years with your closest girlfriends you would talk about your list. The list of who you dreamed your future husband would be.
I wrote silly things on this list.
I kept it in a special box. I read it about 7 years later & decided I needed to part ways with it.
It’s good I did.
But I still had lingering ideas that culture, books, movies & such had me thinking were “musts” in a man I would be pursued by.
The major thing on this list I was still believing: he has to be “hot.”
Attraction is important. Super important. Attraction is what draws me to my friends & in and of itself is a good thing. Attraction is not wrong.
But this standard or idea of “hot”, what is that even?
I use hot to describe the temperature of my coffee, and the temperature of water or air.
“The temperature outside in Redding is hot, especially in the summer time.”
“Come eat your food while it’s hot.”
But to describe a person as hot? Uh, I describe myself as hot when I’m sweaty, overheated and want to jump in a cool lake or river.
Character is attractive.
Discovering who a person is on the inside, when they share their life, their heart, that’s attractive.
Jesus present in their life is attractive. Pursuing a life of adventure with God, growing to be more like Jesus, letting God heal your pain & your past, that is attractive.
Join me in removing this idea we’ve got about our future mister or miss being “hot” and let’s pursue a life of adventure with our Creator. We are drawn to Him and naturally we’ll be drawn to others pursuing Him as well.
Maybe this is why Papa says for us not to worry, especially about the future because He’s got good gifts & adventures for us to open.
He’s a good father!
Thanks for this fresh perspective Papa.